Save Yourself: The True Essence of Being an “It Girl”

What is an “It Girl”?

The term “it girl” is often associated with beauty, style, and a certain aura of sex appeal. But beyond the surface, the “it girl” represents much more—someone who embodies a blend of confidence, kindness, and authenticity. This concept is not just about looking perfect; it’s about adopting a mindset that prioritizes self-care, loyalty, and balance in every aspect of life.

The phrase “it girl” originated in the British upper class around the turn of the 20th century, with actress Clara Bow being the first to fully embody the persona. Over time, the term evolved to describe young women who were not just beautiful, but captivating in their personalities, style, and ability to effortlessly navigate social circles. While the modern definition may lean toward the “socialite” lifestyle, the essence of being an “it girl” goes far beyond fame or physical appearance—it’s about having a magnetic presence grounded in authenticity.

Today, being an “it girl” is different for everyone. It’s a mix of confidence, kindness, and an engaging personality. The “it girl” knows her worth, nurtures her physical and mental health, and spreads positivity. But here’s the key: your life is not a self-improvement project. It’s not about perfecting every part of you for the sake of being admired—it’s about finding your own path to self-care and happiness. The more you give to yourself, the more you can offer to others.

Turning Point: Self-Care is the Foundation

At some point in life, we all come to a realization that we cannot pour from an empty cup. For me, that moment came when I realized that I’ve always been willing to die for my family and friends or “take the bullet.” But to truly be there for them (and for myself), I needed to prioritize my own well-being and needs. This understanding was a turning point when it came to mental health.

This relization alone, sparked a challenge for me when it came to balancing day to day life with myself. It is hard to comprehend that while the day is spent by myself, I can not seem to make time for myself. It is an art to balancing personal happiness with the happiness you bring others. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being present, grounded, and always striving to nurture yourself in a way that enables you to thrive in all aspects of life.

Cultivating the “It Girl” Mindset

Being an “it girl” isn’t just about style or beauty—it’s a mindset. Here’s how you can develop and sustain it for the long haul:

1. Prioritize Health and Fitness

The foundation of being an “it girl” is nurturing your physical and mental health. This doesn’t mean obsessing over your appearance, but rather focusing on your well-being so you feel energized, confident, and balanced.

Tips:

• Exercise Regularly: Find an activity you enjoy, whether it’s yoga, running, pilates, or weightlifting. Consistency is key.
• Eat Nutritious Foods: Fuel your body with whole foods that nourish you and help you feel your best.
• Rest and Recovery: Never underestimate the importance of sleep. A good night’s rest is essential for maintaining both mental and physical health.

2. Develop Emotional Intelligence

Being able to understand and manage your emotions is a hallmark of the “it girl.” It’s not just about how you look, but how you make others feel. Cultivating emotional intelligence leads to stronger relationships and more authentic connections.

Tips:

• Practice Empathy: Be a good listener and seek to understand others’ perspectives.
• Set Healthy Boundaries: Know when to say no, and prioritize your emotional well-being.
• Cultivate Positivity: Maintain a positive attitude and mindset, even in tough situations.

3. Nurture Your Authenticity

One of the most captivating aspects of an “it girl” is her authenticity. She doesn’t try to fit into a mold, and she isn’t afraid to be herself. Embrace your quirks, passions, and imperfections—this is what makes you truly magnetic.

Tips:

• Embrace Your Unique Qualities: Whether it’s your interests, your sense of humor, or your style, own what makes you, you.
• Practice Self-Compassion: Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.
• Be Confident in Your Own Skin: Confidence isn’t about being flawless; it’s about being comfortable with who you are, flaws and all.

4. Build Meaningful Relationships

The “it girl” is not just about herself—she brings people together. Building meaningful, authentic relationships is a major part of this persona.

Tips:

• Surround Yourself with Positive People: Choose friends and mentors who support and uplift you.
• Show Loyalty and Love: Be there for the people you care about, just as they are there for you.
• Offer Support: Whether it’s emotional, financial, or just being a good listener, support your loved ones in their journeys.

Final Thoughts: Live Your Best Life, Authentically

Being the “it girl” is not a destination—it’s a lifelong journey of self-care, authenticity, and love for both yourself and others. As you embrace this mindset, remember that your life is not about perfection; it’s about living authentically, caring for yourself, and nurturing the relationships that matter most.

The more you invest in yourself, the more you’ll have to offer. So take time to care for your mind, body, and soul. This is how you become the “it girl” in your own life—one that is grounded, engaged, and full of purpose.